The 12th Step Podcast

First Order vs Second Order Changes

In this episode we go over what the difference is between first order change and second order change. What that means in both your addiction and your everyday life. And how this will help improve your daily interactions in life.

 

My Recovery My Addiction

We have all heard the phrase “willing and ready.” It’s used to describe someone who is both compelled to do something and properly equipped to see it through. The process starts when a person who is struggling with addiction admits that there is a problem. It also requires a willingness on his or her part to get sober, as well as consistent, committed action. They have accepted that they have a problem. They have experienced pain and consequences, and as a result, they have a sincere desire for something different for their lives.

Guilt vs Shame

In this episode we talk about Guilt vs Shame. Although many people use the two words "guilt" and "shame" interchangeably, they actually refer to different experiences. Tune in to this episode to better understand the difference between guilt and shame and how you can use this tool to fortify your recovery.

Belief Systems

Belief systems are the stories we tell ourselves to define our personal sense of Reality. Every human being has a belief system that they utilize, and it is through this mechanism that we individually, “make sense” of the world around us. As humans, we tend to use all these belief systems in varying degrees to cope with events in our lives. Tune in to this episode to learn more about belief systems, both good and negative. And how to challenge those negative belief systems.

Addictive Cycle

There is sometimes a perception that addiction is something that either exists in a person’s character or does not. However, the reality is a bit more complex than that. The process of developing addiction tends to occur over a series of stages and, like other chronic illnesses, often turns into a cycle of addiction. Tune in to learn more about how this cycle affects you and your addiction and how you can break your addictive cycle.

Three Circles

Ultimately, our definition of sobriety is our own, but if we define our own program of recovery in isolation, our self-made programs may deceive us, becoming too loose or too restrictive.

Most of us have no desire to stop being sexual altogether. It is not sex, in and of itself, that causes us problems, but the addiction to certain sexual behaviors. We have found that it is necessary for each member to define his or her own abstinence.

To help us define our sexual sobriety, many of us use a tool developed within SAA called The Three Circles. Learn more about this wonderful recovery tool.

Where To Start

As addicts we strive to let go of shaming secrets and to break out of isolation. Connections with other recovering addicts, including a sponsor, assisted us in getting a sense of the pattern involved in our addictive sexual behavior. Find out what we feel are the things that heled us and where you should tart your journey to recovery.

Honesty

Why is honesty so important in recovery? This is the major problem with individuals who are active in their addiction. Often as addicts we lie, starting with lies to ourselves, and then we start lying to others.  However, when we start to tell one lie to cover our tracks, then we often finds ourselves telling another lie to cover all all the lies we have told.

We have learned that honesty is the best policy and as long as we are willing to be truthful when it comes to our recovery, then we find that we do not have to work to cover up the lies because there are no lies to worry about.  You will be amazed with how far this will take you in the journey of recovery and in your life.

Welcome to the Podcast

Welcome to the very first episode of The 12th Step Podcast. We're Sex Addicts offering a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction and hope to help others recover from sexual addiction, just as we have been helped.